Real Talk
Tldr: My family, and I are being abuse by my dad. I’m posting this to tell the world what goes on in my daily life. I wouldn’t be doing this if my dad wasn’t trying to ruin my moms job by harassing her at work; or going to the police to try to get them on his side. personally I don’t like my information being out there, but I have little choice when he is now actively telling people about the house. I just want the tell my story.
For those who can’t read all of this, hear audio of him yelling at my mom.
drive.google.com/file/d/1GRsW5…Real talk is something I try to stay away from a lot, but unfortunately due to recent events my hands been forced. The recent event in question happen about a day, or two ago. While my mom was getting ready for work, my father snuck into her room to go thru her phone. What he found was that she had a guy friend at one of her jobs; That helps her get more hrs. He decides to call the guy, and multiple coworkers of hers. To tell them how much of a hoe she is. He is now actively share information with the police to get them on his side.
Now personally I don’t care he that went thru her phone, he’s honestly done worst. My problem is for years he said “that were not aloud to talk about the house.” now that he’s jealous he’s aloud to break that rule, and mess with my moms job. No. You talk about someone, they’re going to talk about you back. So I’m here to air out all of his dirty secrets, and a my own. I’m going in list format because he’s done so much that it would take a whole book to go step by step.
He accuses my mom of cheating on him, but says he has “multiple bitches.” Also he has told me before that he has cheated on my mom. (So who cares if my mom cheats. I mean she doesn’t, but who cares if she does. If you got multiple woman you shouldn’t even care. Right?)
He’s given my mom a std.
He’s always throwing random women’s names at my mom. (This is more to discredit his claims. Again if you have all these women who love you. Why does my mom cheating matter?)
Accused my mom of sleeping with her cousin.
Accused my mom of being raped.
Told my mom more than once that my sister tried to have sex with him. While she was under the age.
Hid a camera in our bathroom. That was recording my sister in the bath. ( He claims this was to see if my mom was sneaking men in the house. To his defense I believe the video didn’t show anything. I never saw it so I can’t say. Still creepy.
He’s a 56 year old man that has stated he only goes after girls that are 19 year old. A girl he throws in my moms face a lot, was under age when he met her.
He has hit me to get back at mom.
He has told my brother that he wasn’t sure if he was his father. (my brother looks exactly like him.)
Doesn’t pay any bills. (Well he has the water bill, which is about 50 something dollars. This bill is constantly paid by someone else.)
Says we should be paying rent.(We pay for every bill in the house, buy food, drinks, cook him dinners, bought the car he uses now.)
Says he’s aloud to scream at us cause we’re holding him back. I could see if we were actively making his life worse. Not paying bills, asking for money, that stuff. But this is the complete opposite. No one talks to him, or really deals with him. Unless he comes and yells at us about something.
Paralysis the household. No one can move in the house with him there. (This point will get expanded on later.)
Has actively encouraged my brother to fight my mom. ( It’s as bad as it sounds.)
Accused me of sucking the dicks of my coworkers. (Honestly if he sees me with any guy, he assumes I’m sucking there dick.)
Accused me of sucking the dicks of my coworkers. (Honestly if he sees me with any guy, he assumes I’m sucking there dick.)
Says no one helps him with his campaigns. (he’s spent over 10,000 dollars of my money on his campaign. My mom helped him get signatures for his campaign. We all helped him the first year he ran.)
Voted for Donald Trump. ( Honestly voting for Trump isn’t a super bad thing parse. It’s more the reason he voted for Trump. Which was thought Trump would get him a job. In his words “ I helped Trump get the black vote. I told him to get black people to not vote.“ He thinks Trump a rich guy took advice from him.)
Accuses me of acting like trump. ( This is supposed to be a insult, but it means I’m a guy he vote for president.)
Has told everyone in the house how much of a loser they are. ( He uses more offensive words than this, but saying all of them would take a while.)
Put my name on bills without my consent. While I was over the age of 18.(I never took my name off the bills, cause then we wouldn’t be able to survive without them.)
Refuses to put his name on any bill until in his words “he’s away from us”
Refuses to get a real job until he’s away from us. (he sells bootleg dvds. Claims this makes him money, but then asks us to buy him more inventory.)
Stopped anyone from getting a job, because he still wanted to be on food stamps. (I wanted to get a job at 16, and my mom want to get a job forever. But we were denied, because he wanted food stamps. Us getting jobs would have helped with the house. Made it easier to pay bills, and eat. unlike what actually happened which was, our lights going off every month, and barely eating. We had to live off a generator for a year, and move to his mother’s another year. Right now we are objectively better off then we he was in control of the money.)
Goes through our things when we leave the house
Steals money
Uses my art without my permission. (this isn’t a big one. But it’s crappy that I have to hide my art.)
Kept us away from my moms side of the family.
Has tried to get us to hate his own family. He tells us how much they hate us.
Fought me over a Facebook. (At the time we had one laptop, and he wanted to go on Facebook. But he was one it all day, and I had just got it. I was working on a essay that was due the next day. So instead of saying “ok school is more important.” He fought me over a laptop. A grown man fought a kid the age of 16 to 17 over Facebook.)
Facebook was more important than my schooling.
Throws shipped packages at me while I sleep. (Not huge but it shows that he’s petty. The only reason he’s throwing stuff at me is, because he’s mad I don’t give him money.)
Follows my mom around the house screaming at her. (This includes her going to the bathroom.)
Calls his own family members horrible failures. (everyone talks about family. I already know people in the family talk about me. But the difference is they will say positive things about family to. )
Called his own mom a bitch
Told me my cousin has no life and will end up a failure. (This cousin has his own place and is a chef soooooooooooooo.)
Another cousin he talked about how she’s not black and uneducated cause of the men she’s married.
Talked about his own baby sister a lot. (bitches and the usual failure stick was added)
Says my uncles is a lonely retard. (He’s a scientist) He talks about my moms family. (This is the one of the few times you will hear something positive about his own family. Other times are when he use them to put us down.)
Says my mom has always been a hoe, but has stayed with her for 25 years and given her 2 kids
Doesn’t clean. (ok he does, but it’s something small like wiping the table off. ( I wouldn’t care tbh no one really cares. Until he wants a Olympic medal for it.)
Sexist. (He thinks a woman’s place is in the kitchen. This is the main reason he yells at my mom imo. she doesn’t say in a women’s place, so she’s a hoe.)
Accuses my mom of taking stuff out the house.( This could hold water if his list wasn’t always changing. (It changes mid argument.)
Has told me there are kids from a woman I don’t know, that look more like him than I do.(I look exactly like him)
Tells his mom on us. ( I just find this funny tbh. A grown man running to his mom complaining about how everyone bullies him.)
Will yell at you for doing what he wants.
Give him money well he’ll tell you how pathetic you are.
Cook him dinner. Well you don’t know how to cook
Give him sex. Worst thing in the world.
He Will not help you out at all.
So I had a bad fall at my last job. They told me I should see a doctor. it was after the buses were running, so I needed to get a ride. I call him, and he complains to me about how he can’t do it cause his plates expired. So I had to get a Uber home.
Most of the reasons I had to wait for him to pick me up during my first job. Was cause he wanted to argue with my mom, or cause he was on Facebook.
Offers to drive us to work, or places. Then complains, and argues with us if we take him up on those offers.
Threaten to get someone to beat up his kid and wife on the street.
Ok so I said a lot about him, And I know he’ll say a lot about more me. So I’m going to talk about the things he’s going to say, or at least I would if the only real thing he’s got on us. Is a dirty room. Tbh their bad but not that bad. I know the worst thing about my room is the pile of clothes I got on the floor. There’s a lot of stuff I got on the floor honestly. But most of it is things I got no space for. I have nowhere to store anything so it ends up on the floor. Also I’m why should I care for a place he’s constantly telling me is not mine. Why care to clean up when your not even aloud to anything in your own home.
I said up he’s paralyzed the house, but I didn’t really go into detail. So here it is. My dads the reason I don’t want a relationship. Now here me out, cause I don’t want people to take that statement at face value. So I don’t think it’s healthy for me to bring anyone into my drama. I think it’s unhealthy for me to be caring all of this pain around and unload on someone. “But Todd that’s what relationships are two people sharing their problems with each other.” I hear you cry. Yes a relationship is give and take; but if one party can’t perform that give and only takes. Then that’s not much of a relationship is it. (Pretty much why all my friendships fail thru lol) I want to be able to respond in touch with the person. I also want to be able to get close to a person. But at this stage I can’t. I can’t worry about anyone other than my family right now. I don’t want to leave cause I know I’m the only one in the house who can take my dad. I don’t want to him going thru my things. (Which he has done.) I worry that I can’t leave my mom alone with him any more. Until I can be free of theses worries I don’t need some to bit relationship that’s going to last for a month. Like everyone else. I got more important things to do. Like focus on making my comic, and money. But that’s not all my Mom can’t even come home cause when she gets home he’s in her face yelling. I can’t leave the house with out be accused of sucking dick, or doing crack. No one can leave the house are move. If we stay downstairs to long he’ll argue with us. we’re all locked in our rooms with no where to go, cause we don’t feel like being yelled at. This man who calls himself a dad, and a husband has destroyed his own house.
Foot Notes
-The relationship bit was added cause people are always asking about why I don’t have a girlfriend.
-Some of these are small annoyances, but I thought they should be mentioned.
-This was a post to family and friends. now sharing it around everywhere